Tips for Talking to Your Parent Who Won't Admit They Have Dementia

Someone who experiences signs of early dementia may not notice the symptoms in themselves. Even if they do, they may not admit it, which is why having a conversation with them about it can feel that much more complicated - but it's not impossible.

Before jumping right into this conversation, understand that your parent may already be experiencing shifts in their communication skills, which means that you need to be more mindful to express yourself clearly and carefully. A little bit of preparedness can go a long way in conveying to your senior parent that you care and only want to act in their best interest. Here are a few tips to help you have a meaningful conversation with them.

Consider who should have the conversation

Think if there is a family member or even a friend who has always positively influenced your parent. Be willing to admit if that person is not you.

Don't argue with your parent

Seniors with dementia can easily become confused. They may also experience delusion and paranoia, which can further add to the distress of an already difficult situation and conversation. Accept your disagreements, take a break, and try another time.

Be clear with your questions

If your senior parent is beginning to struggle with dementia, they may already be experiencing a decline in their speech, cognitive functioning, and receptive and expressive language. Make sure you don't ask vague questions or offer too many choices. You don't want them to struggle giving an answer on their own, which is why either-or questions are helpful.

Be comfortable with the silence

Understand that it's normal to experience moments of silence with a parent who has dementia. Things are moving at a different pace for them cognitively, and the silence can be calming for them. Be patient with them and allow them to take their time to process what you say and respond.

No matter how this conversation goes with your parent, remember that no matter what, communication is vital for seniors with dementia, as it helps you demonstrate your love and support and allows them to engage with you. Staying in touch with them despite any difficulties communicating is also critical for your wellbeing during this challenging time.